Stranger in a Strange Land

So roughly three weeks ago, I became a resident of the great state of California. This has fufilled a dream of mine that began when I was in high school. I’m finally unpacked, my husband has started his job and my daughter has begun kindergarten. The weather is beautiful. The local and organic food is abundant and everyone wears flip flops. It’s basically paradise. So why then, am I miserable?

The strange land Courtney finds herself in

I’m not really miserable. I’m just overwhelmed with the idea of starting over once again. I’m more prepared than I was when I moved to Chicago 4 years ago. I know that it takes time to build up relationships with people and make friends. But I can’t help but be envious of the ease in which my child and my husband have settled into our new lives. Of course I know this is silly. My daughter is 5 and in school. My husband is a Chiropractor and emmeshed in the bicycling community. Their environments are conducive to making friends. Whilst I do work, I also take care of an 18 month old. My environment is constantly changing to the playground, grocery store, and home for naptime. My son is great, but not exactly a great conversationalist.

So I have two choices. I can wallow in my sadness, be homesick, talk about how everything was. I can dwell in the past and go over every decision I made leading up to this point. Or I can focus on the future.  I can ride my bike on the bike path that leads to the beach in a short 4 miles. I can test out a different Farmers’ Market every day of the week. I can relish the time with my daughter as we walk to and from school every day. I can look at my winter coat and laugh with glee at the fact that unless I take a vacation to the seasons, the odds of my wearing it again are nill.

I can take charge of my life and make the life I want to live.

Too often we are caught up in the regularity of life, but we only have one life to live. Why not live it to its fullest potential? Small changes into our every day routines can have major and long lasting results. I am notoriously late but now that my daughter is in elementary school, I can’t laze about and lollygag in the mornings. Now I wake up early, and do 15 minutes of yoga. Sun salutation to greet the day. I foam roll. My body feels longer, leaner. My joints are starting to ache less.  Small change. Big results.

This past month I made my dream a reality. I took a giant leap of faith. When I look back at my old life, I realize I can’t jump backwards, I can only move forward. Each day will bring its own sets of joy and of sadness. But I’m not going to dwell on that. I’m going to sit outside, enjoy the sunshine and remind myself that in time, I won’t remember being unhappy, or homesick. Because I’ll be too busy with my friends enjoying the life that this marvelous state has to offer and being grateful that I chose to move here.

To talk more about how you can be supported in changing your life through incremental steps, I offer a free health consultation to talk about YOUR goals and where you want to be in your life with respect to health and wellness. Please visit to learn more about Health Coaching and how we can work together to ensure you get to live the life you were meant to live.



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About the Author: Courtney Abrams is a Health Coach and Founder of Roslyn Wellness. Trained at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, she helps clients work within the realities of their day to day lives to find ways to make small and manageable changes to their health that can maintained over time. Her clients include people trying to lose weight, beat sugar, increase their energy, cook simple healthful food and reduce stress to name a few. She also shares a passion for food policy and educating people about the foods they are eating and the governmental role behind much of it. You can learn more about Courtney and Roslyn Wellness at

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