Divine Timing… Sometimes It Sucks
I’ve been working on something professionally for a while. I’ve been excited about it. And I’ve been looking forward to it. Savoring the idea of its success. “How could it not be a success? It’s going to be awesome,” I’d think. And yet, and yet, part of me worried that it wouldn’t come together, that no one would be interested in this new work, that it just wouldn’t happen. And then I’d put that out of my mind and focus on the work of planning, and that felt good. I would get excited about it, again. I’d go back to trusting that it would all come together beautifully, in exactly the way I want it to… Or rather, in the way the universe wants it to, because I’m in alignment with the universe, and the universe wants it to unfold as I do. Ha ha ha. The joke is on me. Because there’s a little something called DIVINE TIMING, which can suck, from my current point of view, but isn’t that the point? It’s perfect timing. And my version of what’s perfect is definitely flawed.
Well, my project has been postponed. It kind of unraveled. I don’t blame myself but I do wonder what I could have done to make it come together faster and better. And then I get an email from my friend Gabriella about the project, asking if perhaps it had been postponed. She had a feeling.
From Gabriella: “Trusting that life lines up perfectly always… whether I understand it or not…” she asks if given this other thing happening in her life delaying her from working with me on this thing isn’t a sign that maybe my work will also be postponed. Well, it is. And I’m trying to find comfort in those words, “trusting that life lines up perfectly always…”
Have you ever had things not work out or come together when you wanted them to? Have you ever been traveling and had a delay that botched all your plans? Are you able to look back and see if things happened differently (worked out better)because of that delay? Sometimes I am, and sometimes not so much. And sometimes I get what I want in life, and other times I don’t. And often I’m grateful I haven’t always gotten what I thought I wanted. In high school, I wanted to be popular. Six months later I didn’t care. Something else captured my attention. We don’t always know what we really want. I know this is true. I wanted to be gallery owner, and then I wanted to be a lawyer, and then I wanted to be president, and then I wanted… And that was all before the age of twelve! The point is at any given moment I often want things I don’t want the next year. And oftentimes, I worry, worry, worry about things that later come together or fall apart in a way that takes care of whatever I was worried about – and I realize I’ve wasted all that time worrying! I think, perhaps, that this divine timing is a bit like that.
If I can just trust that it all lines of beautifully, exactly as it’s meant to, then perhaps I can let go of my need to control the timing of an outcome. It’s the same with desire. If I just desire a life in the flow, one that brings contentment and ease, then the things I need show up seemingly effortlessly. And maybe it seems effortless because I’ve not wasted any time fretting about whether I’m going to get what I want or not! Ha! A divine joke. On me. I get it. And I think I can kinda see the humor.
This is from Enoch Tan at MindReality.com: “If you want to experience more harmony, happiness and effortless manifestation of your desires in life, you have to let go of all resistance towards whatever comes your way. The reason why we fight against what comes is because we think that we are being kept from having our way. But the truth is whatever happens is exactly what is meant to be, and it is all part of the process of the manifestation of our desires. Everything is happening in divine timing, and we can flow if we do not limit ourselves.
If something doesn’t happen at the expected time in the expected way, it means it’s going to happen at a better time in a better way. Don’t resist what is happening, instead focus on doing something else. It is better not to resist what is happening when it isn’t necessary, but to just go with the flow.”
My idea of what’s perfect timing is very demanding. I want it when I want it… usually RIGHT NOW. Because I know best. But that’s not really true, is it? I hardly know best about even the simplest things, like what I want and what I’ll want six months from now. And most of the time, I’m really grateful when certain projects or relationships fall apart because they weren’t right. And I lucked into something better, something or someone more suited to me and my needs.
If you feel things aren’t working out for you these days, here are few tips that helped me:
1. Practice believing you are taken care of, even if you don’t feel like you are right now in this moment.
2. Keep meditating, working towards your goals, and if something falls apart, rework it, discover another angle, look for what’s missing or what needs repair. Check in with yourself, are you ready to receive, or did you need to learn something that the delay is here to teach you. (Remember Step 1 – you are taken care of so it must be happening for a good (divine) reason.
3. Keep asking for what you want/need. It might show up in a completely different package than expected but I bet you’ll get what you want.
4. Just go with the flow, stop swimming upstream. If something feels like a struggle, i.e., it’s not happening in the way you want, in the timely manner you expect, maybe it’s because you’re out of the flow. You’re struggling. Stop it and practice swimming downstream, go with the current. Remember Gabriella’s words: “trust that life lines up perfectly ALWAYS.”
These help me when I’m out of the flow and worried and anxious about things falling apart or events being postponed. Hope they do the same for you!
And if you have any great tips, please share them with me!
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About the Author: Tania Van Pelt is the creator of Happiness Series. After working in film, she realized that creating content for an online world that moves and inspires people is where it's at. She loves the immediacy and the vibrancy of working online. Tania created Happiness Series because she wants to empower people to live healthier, longer, more joyful lives through fitness, nutrition, stress management and integrative wellness. After years of research and practical application, she is excited about the newest project, Ageless Diet™. Ageless Diet is a lifestyle that promotes an Ageless You. Because getting older doesn't have to mean aging, and losing weight doesn't have to be hard. Happiness Series and Ageless Diet are going in new directions, bringing people together in beautiful settings with retreats and conferences. Books and a cooking series are soon to follow. Tania also recently completed her sitcom web/TV series pilot Employees Only, at http://employeesonly.tv.