The Purpose of Boundaries

A Healthy Boundary

Hume Va Summer

Let’s talk about boundaries. Often the reason we need boundaries gets lost in the shuffle because of the way we create said boundaries. We tend to focus on the boundary itself—a wall that is often built around us based on resentment from exhaustion and depletion. We often hurt the person on the other side of that boundary too, which complicates things even more by creating a stressful dynamic between us. We can also accidentally shut out our Guides, Angels, and God’s Light if the ring we place around ourselves is too strong.
The true purpose of boundaries is to replenish us, to bring us back to Mother and Father God, and back in touch with our own soul light. A boundary separates us from those around us so that we can center ourselves, get cleared out of the muck and mire, and grounded. We need boundaries when we have given away too much of our light and life force to others; when we’ve become martyrs by our own making. 
Best way to know if we need a boundary is to check in with how we’re feeling. Are we feeling depleted or resentful? That’s a sign. If we train ourselves to quickly recognize these symptoms then we can move straight into healing ourselves; the healing creates the healthy boundary. This stops us from lashing out at anger. 
So instead of using a sharp tongue towards someone when you are tired and have a million things to do, simply turn to your loved one and say, “will you do these dishes for me and feed the pets? I just need to be alone for a few minutes.” Then walk away from the situation or person that is overwhelming or frustrating you. You can go outside in the yard or sit in a chair in the bedroom. Open your hands, close your eyes, and talk to Source. You can say, “please help me.” You can release the stress by having a good cry or taking deep breaths. Then with the black and grey energy of stress moved out of the way, you can easily fill yourself with the light from Source with a simple, “Fill me.” Breathe, sway, or open your hands and receive the feeling of support. The light will begin to pour into you filling not only your body, but also all of the layers around you. This builds a nice cushion of light that naturally protects you. This is a healthy boundary.
When you feel a little better, stand up, go back out, and say to your loved ones, “Thanks! You’re the best. I feel better!” And in that moment all of the Love that is overflowing in you from Source also gets poured into those around you, and they too feel better.


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About the Author: Ariel Hardy is an energy healer, currently living in Denver, CO. She has practiced energy healing work since 1996. Ariel also enjoys making instructional videos to teach others how she is doing this work. She has not been trained in any healing schools or classes, but is guided from within and by her Spirit Guides and Angels who move her hands in the healing sessions. In the sessions, Ariel acts as a conduit of healing light between Source and the Earth. Ariel can work on you long distance, anywhere in the world, using phone or Skype to communicate as she performs the energy healing. As Ariel repairs and clears your energy field, she asks you questions about what she finds. She talks about the energy field as she works, explaining what she is seeing in the vortexes, grids and rivers of light in your field. Ariel is also a radio show host on VoiceAmerica’s 7th Wave Channel, every Monday at 2 p.m. MST, beginning June 13, 2016. For more information, please visit Ariel’s website at


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