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Calm, Cool, Classy… F*ck The Rest

By Lauren Harper

Despite my extended absence from writing, I am back, far from six feet under and here to stay.

I try to keep up with all the horoscope explanations and planetary reasoning as to why things are happening, not happening, should be happening, want to be happening and need to be happening in my life….

Almost like predestined clockwork, and without failing to mention that I may be generating what could be diagnosed as a slight yet permissible addiction, I decide to peruse the astrological entries online. Sometimes I’m feeling specific and inspect all information only star-sign related. However, most days consist of finding solace in the all-too-accurate general summaries provided by wacky astrologers who reassure the readers that all happenings in your life are normal due to planetary alignment and other starry night science I’ll never fathom.

What has most certainly ignited a fiery spark in my existence is a new month and the beginning of my favorite season. Although a creature of habit, with some things solely for the pure comfort and stability of a routine, I really do love change. In fact, I tend to search for it, maybe force it here and there but always and forever embrace it.

I’ve spent the majority of the summer reflecting on my past and how I can use the feelings that arise naturally to my advantage. All of us know that good things and bad things come to an end. Really all things come to an end but that’s depressing and not the point of the saying. “All good things come to an end…” The most lackluster yet profound statement. However it is true, and it has a deeper meaning and one hell of an impact if you let it affect you.

I had a recent conversation about the quote and why, in retrospect, the past seems superior, more enjoyable and sincere than the present. The truth is, the past probably isn’t but only seems that way because during that time it wasn’t appreciated.

Of course, there are certain memories, friends, boyfriends, pets and relatives that you wish and would give anything to re-live, have back or hug again. Even if just for a moment to sincerely appreciate what was once yours.

The golden light that will always shine is the present and to make sure, even if you start at this very moment, to live every second to the fullest. Of course horrendous days where you feel like growling at everything in sight are inevitable, but if you live with that carpe-diem mentality, you know what you do now, tomorrow, next month and into the year can be appreciated in the far future. An easy translation for what you just read is what my friend recently expressed via email, “We have one shot here, one ride on this roller coaster, and you’re going to sit at the back?! Take the lead. Attack your life. Live it.”

From the same brain that brought you the mantra above intertwined with yours truly, the following declaration was created: “Calm, cool, classy… f*ck the rest.” This phrase was born more than a decade ago and lives on to this day into forever.

What does it mean? That’s for you and me to interpret accordingly and execute to its colossal potential. It is straightforward but beautifully mysterious as well. One thing is for sure: it ain’t no rebellious stick-up-the-middle-finger-get-tattoos-and-act-like-pirates type of essence but rather the positive and refreshing opposite.

Someone bringing you down? Let ‘em go. Feel stuck? Revamp yourself.  Don’t want to do something? Speak up. By waiting on other people to change, you could have changed yourself and already be a bigger and better person for it. I think there’s another annoyingly true quote about that which we can add here… you know, that the whole leading the horse to water drinking thing.

I learn something new everyday, sometimes on purpose and most by raw day-to-day experience. I try to find a way to relatively improve my mind, body and soul by accepting all forms of my current circumstances and simply move on. Learning the hard way is better than not learning at all…that’s how I involuntarily discover anyway. One aspect of “CCCFTR” is to try and not to complain. Majority of the time, complaining is a go-to luxury when in reality, we all know we can fix what we’re complaining about in an instant. It’s literally just an ugly waste of time, and don’t worry as I type I’m telling myself this too.

Have faith in yourself and stick to your guns in a cordial manner. Life moves on and works itself out in the way that is best for you. Whether you like it or not, you’re at the carnival and already seated in the roller coaster. Hopefully you’re sitting at the front with a gooey funnel cake awaiting any twists and sudden drops that come your way.

Just stay calm, cool and classy.

…and f*ck the rest.



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About the Author: Lauren Harper is an L.A. woman with East Coast blood. Born in Greenwich, Connecticut, she is an actress and writer residing in the heart of Hollywood, California. Lauren graduated from Penn State University with a B.A. in journalism and a minor in French and Francophone Studies. Fast forward to 2012, she has continued to work, successfully carving a niche for herself in the entertainment industry. Lauren is excited to contribute to Happiness Series with Lights, Camera…Happiness and her interview series, Lights, Camera…Interview. Lauren hopes to further enlighten herself and you with each entry. Find out more about Lauren Harper | Twitter: @TheLaurenHarper | Official Site: | e-mail: [email protected]

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