Happiness in Love… Being SINGLE

Stop Attacking Singletons!

Though it’s rare, at at the moment I’m seriously annoyed. By now y’all know I’m a lover and not a fighter, but I straight up want to spar with the writers of such outrageously unfair articles like “Still Single? 11 Signs You’re Too Picky” and “5 Lies Your Single Friends Like to Tell.” Why are these happily ensconced journalists kicking the underdogs (or should I say puppies)? Because that’s what their smugly annoying headlines feel like to this single girl.

Are you ready to here the derisive nonsense these women spewed? The former post boasts the tagline “Still single? Maybe it’s not them this time…maybe it’s YOU!” It then goes on to list examples such as “You might still be single if…You show up five minutes late and get upset when your date isn’t there yet” and “You’ve turned down more dates than you’ve been on.”

Katie Holmes, happier now that she's single?

I’m not going to apologize for the fact that I don’t automatically fall at the feet of every toolbag that hits on me. It’s called self-respect, OK? Though I do agree that we should all branch out occasionally and go out with a guy we wouldn’t ordinarily date, why should we force ourselves to spend an evening with someone we’re not attracted to? Thats part of the process, too.

As for the lies single people tell, read ‘em and don’t weep (I didn’t…I got mad). They are, as follows:

1) Single folks have more fun.

2) Singles are too busy for relationships.

3) Singles are too independent to answer to anyone.

4) Singles know relationships are too hard.

5) Casual dating is better.

What a load of BS! OK, so maybe we singletons do have to occasionally tell ourselves lies to feel better about the fact that we’re not in a relationship, but why should we be called out for it? We want to be, but just like the wives/girlfriends writing these pieces, we won’t settle for the wrong man. And let me remind you, these gals were single themselves once upon a time. It’s so easy for those who are ‘involved’ to forget the days when they, too, were man-less. And one day, should they breakup/divorce their dream man, they’ll come crawling back to us, those dreadful, lying single friends, looking for solace and acceptance. And we will give it, because that’s what single people do.

So stop your yammering, girls. Stop placing blame. Instead of making us feel worse, why not try making us feel better? You’ve been us before and you might be us again. Stop casting stones at glass houses…because even seemingly wonderful relationships are, at some point, undeniably fragile.

Trust us, we want to be just as happy as you are. So instead of attacking us, can’t you help us out? The universal goal here is love…and we’re a lot more alike than you think.



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About the Author: Laura Schreffler is a former New York Daily News columnist who left the world of celebrity behind to focus on what makes her happiest — love and travel. She is the creator of LoveTrekker.com — a website devoted to these two passions that she fondly calls “looking for love in all the right places.” In her spare time she likes to play matchmaker for her friends, dream about her next vacation and gaze at photographs of Taylor Kitsch. For more advice on love, relationships, and happiness, check out http://lovetrekker.com & her book "Internet Dating 101". And follow her here at Happiness Series with her weekly blog about finding love.

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