Online Dating: It’s a Good Thing
For those of you who have ever simpered that “online dating is such a good idea but it just, well, isn’t for you”, think again. It’s for everyone, as it happens, and what more proof is needed than the fact that the Domestic Goddess herself, Martha Stewart, thinks it’s a good thing? Don’t believe me? Well check this out: she even has her own Match.com profile!
That’s right, Lady M. has joined the ranks of lonely singletons looking for love online. During a chat with The Today Show’s Matt Lauer this week, she revealed that she signed up “to have breakfast with” and “sleep with somebody.” Seems right to me!
She wasn’t afraid to put it all out there, either. And why shouldn’t she? At the age of 71, it’s only fair that this successful divorcee get exactly what she wants. Voila: “shopping” for me on the ‘net.
In her profile she writes: “You may recognize me from my pictures. Yes, it’s really me. I’ve been curious about online dating for a long time, but, like lots of people, have been reluctant to take the leap. I’m just now getting around to it for a couple reasons. After recently writing and publishing my new book, “Living the Good Long Life,” I was reminded how central good relationships are to happiness and longevity. Also, I’ve always been a big believer that technology, if used well, can enhance one’s life. So here I am, looking to enhance my dating life.
Here’s how I’d define myself: Curious about everything. Love learning. An adventurous spirit. I’m told that I’m a specific person, and that the efficiency of online dating might be a good way for me to find that needle in the haystack. So while I’m open to all kinds of people, and love to be surprised, here’s what I know I appreciate in a man: Someone who’s intelligent, established, and curious; and who relishes adventure and new experiences as much as I do. Someone who can teach me new things. A lover of animals, grandchildren, and the outdoors. Young at heart.”
This is my idea of the perfect profile. Yes, her main picture is airbrushed and stunning, but she also includes other pictures of herself. She’s upfront about what she wants, honest in her description and very, very detailed.
I also love that she has no shame about said profile. Online dating isn’t something to be embarrassed about — more than 50% of Americans meet their partner in such a way (as I describe in my book Internet Dating 101: It’s Complicated but it Doesn’t Have to Be). And for those who are busy or don’t frequent the typical spots you’d meet a respective other — bars, restaurants, the beach — it’s a great tool that you should be utilizing.
It’s a modern world, people, so get with the program. We all use cell phones, iPads, iPhones, tablets and Skype. We Facetime instead of having face-to-face conversations. Instagram captures our exploits and Facebook allows everyone we’ve ever met to see everything we’ve ever done. So why the stigma with online dating? The goal is the same for everyone, and that’s happiness, right? If Queen Martha can do it, so can you. And that, my friends, is a very, very good thing.
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About the Author: Laura Schreffler is a former New York Daily News columnist who left the world of celebrity behind to focus on what makes her happiest — love and travel. She is the creator of LoveTrekker.com — a website devoted to these two passions that she fondly calls “looking for love in all the right places.” In her spare time she likes to play matchmaker for her friends, dream about her next vacation and gaze at photographs of Taylor Kitsch. For more advice on love, relationships, and happiness, check out http://lovetrekker.com & her book "Internet Dating 101". And follow her here at Happiness Series with her weekly blog about finding love.