Missed Connections

Where Most Missed Connections Happen In The USA

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Obviously, I’m a big believer that love can happen anywhere, at any time.  That’s why I want you to imagine the following scenario. Pretend for a second that you’re a New Yorker waiting for the 6 train and you happen to lock eyes with a handsome stranger across the crowded platform.  You feel a jolt down to your pinky toe.  But then the moment passes. He gets on the train and you’re still stuck waiting with a sinking feeling in your stomach, wondering what might have been.

This is why I’m such a fan of “Missed Connections” pages. Those moments, the ones that pass us by, can be reversed. Granted, the connection has to be there and you’ll have to put in your time by actually hoping the other person knows what “Missed Connections” are, but hey, sometimes the stars align in our favor.

For those who don’t know, “Missed Connections” are found on Craiglist a place I totally do not typically recommend for picking up people online — but which is completely excellent for finding people you had an “almost” moment with.

Don’t feel like a geek about posting. What’s the worst thing that can happen? He/she won’t see the post or answer. OK, so losing your potential soulmate would suck, but at least there’s no embarrassment factor involved.

Psychology Today actually analyzed where most of these missed opportunities occurred by state, and, surprisingly, the number one spot went to Wal-Mart. Unsurprisingly, these folks are from the deep South: Texas, Mississippi, Georgia and Florida are just a few of the states listed. For the record, I have never seen one attractive person in Wal-mart in my entire life, but hey, different strokes for different folks, right?

Tanned and toned Californians looking for missed love are most likely to see their prospective other at 24-Hour Fitness, while urban residents from public transportation-heavy areas like New York, Washington D.C. and Chicagoans — surprise, surprise — listed the subway.

To summarize, I’m going to end with a quote from one of my favorite high school-era films, Can’t Hardly Wait. Ethan Embry has been pining for the same girl throughout his entire high school experience. He has never done anything about it, believing Jennifer Love Hewitt‘s high school hottie is out of his league. During a chance encounter with Jenna Elfman’s stripper angel (you’ll have to see the movie to understand, mkay?), she tells him: “Fate! There is such a thing as fate, but it only takes you so far. Then it’s up to you to make it happen.”

Take a chance, post a missed connections ad.  Your future happiness might depend on it.



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About the Author: Laura Schreffler is a former New York Daily News columnist who left the world of celebrity behind to focus on what makes her happiest — love and travel. She is the creator of LoveTrekker.com — a website devoted to these two passions that she fondly calls “looking for love in all the right places.” In her spare time she likes to play matchmaker for her friends, dream about her next vacation and gaze at photographs of Taylor Kitsch. For more advice on love, relationships, and happiness, check out http://lovetrekker.com & her book "Internet Dating 101". And follow her here at Happiness Series with her weekly blog about finding love.

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