Gwyneth Paltrow, Chris Martin & a Conscious Uncoupling

Gwyneth Paltrow + Chris Martin Call It Quits: Can ANYTHING Last Forever?

The Uncouple Gwyneth & Chris

I totally didn’t see this one coming. I – and many others – have been blindsided by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin‘s announcement that, after 11 years o f marriage, they’re separating. Seriously, can anything last forever?

Now, I know the Gwynnie haters, of which there are many, might I add, will sneer that this would obviously happen. An upper crust NYC princess with a laid-back (dare I say even geeky) British rocker boy? Did they ever have a chance?  To that I say YES, and one that seemed to me, at least, destined to last more than most. Opposites on the surface attract as long as they have the same fundamental similarities; the same values and goals. Gwyneth left Hollywood behind and lived in the U.K until last year when the couple temporarily relocated to Los Angeles.; a great decision. Plus, in this gal’s humble opinion, British men are among the top in the world to be in a relationship with/married to; generalizing, they’re as loyal and faithful as they come.

But for whatever reason, the marriage didn’t work. There have been many reports that Gwyneth cheated on the Coldplay frontman with at least two different men, and even if she didn’t, trouble has clearly been in paradise for awhile.

This was one couple though that I truly thought would work, if only for the fact that they eschewed the typical Tinseltown crap. Announcing their separation in a controlled manner – on her website, Goop, – was a smart and controlled way of handling the situation. But calling the post “Conscious Uncoupling?” Gag. And it was so cold too.

They wrote: “It is with hearts full of sadness that we have decided to separate. We have been working hard for well over a year, some of it together, some of it separated, to see what might have been possible between us, and we have come to the conclusion that while we love each other very much we will remain separate.

“We are, however, and always will be a family, and in many ways we are closer than we have ever been,” the letter continued. “We are parents first and foremost, to two incredibly wonderful children and we ask for their and our space and privacy to be respected at this difficult time. We have always conducted our relationship privately, and we hope that as we consciously uncouple and coparent, we will be able to continue in the same manner,” they added.

Can any relationship last forever, or is it just the ones that are riddled with all the Hollywood BS that are destined to fail? Marriage – and relationships n general – take work and constant care. Loving someone is easy but love itself is not. Take care of your relationship, nurture it, feed it and maybe you, unlike Gwyneth and Chris, will have your Hollywood ending.



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About the Author: Laura Schreffler is a former New York Daily News columnist who left the world of celebrity behind to focus on what makes her happiest — love and travel. She is the creator of — a website devoted to these two passions that she fondly calls “looking for love in all the right places.” In her spare time she likes to play matchmaker for her friends, dream about her next vacation and gaze at photographs of Taylor Kitsch. For more advice on love, relationships, and happiness, check out & her book "Internet Dating 101". And follow her here at Happiness Series with her weekly blog about finding love.

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