Would you actually marry a guy who used a proposal planner?
Before I begin (and before you start sipping on the haterade) let me make a few things clear. A) I have never been engaged. B) I have never been proposed to. C) I am in no way, shape or form an expert on marriage. HOWEVER, I am a woman who knows what she wants, what she likes, and who — like most of you — believe in romance. So when I heard that two women formed an agency which, in essence, takes all the romance out of one of the potentially most romantic days of your life — the proposal — I was disgusted. How dare they!
I know, I know, I’m in the minority here. Weddings, especially in the South, are like, the highlight of your life, and that includes the proposal. You want a guy to go over the top, you want champagne, roses, a declaration: Harry telling Sally: “I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
And OK, so not all guys are as heartfelt or concise as ol’ Harry (I mean, it was a movie after all). But isn’t the whole point of a proposal that if a guy really wants to be with you, he’s going to think up something major…even if it is the only time he’ll ever do something so grand in the entirety of your relationship?
I can’t blame Tiffany Wright and Daisy Amodio: they’re smart cookies. They saw a market where their assistance was needed, and they capitalized on it.
While witnessing a marriage proposal gone awry (the man in question was attempting to spell out ‘make the happiest man alive’ in candle flames, but spelled ‘happiest’ wrong), the girls decided to start their own bespoke proposal planning company, The Proposers.
These innovative British girls consider every detail. They take the guesswork out of the day by booking everything down to the champagne the newly engaged couple will be cheersing each other with.
Danny Amodi, who employed the girls’ services for his own successful engagement, said of his proposal at The Ritz in London: “On the day of the proposal they stuck up photos and memories of [my girlfriend] Annie and I around London on iconic buildings and places such as Big Ben and The Ritz. I told Annie I had a surprise for her and handed her a map, which directed her to all of the photos and clues. She spent the day in London following the clues and reading the memories and letters I had left for her, before being led to a restaurant overlooking The Thames where I was waiting on bended knee.”
UM, Danny, mate? Why couldn’t you just plan the evening yourself? Are you that lazy?
As per every married/engaged man I’ve ever spoken to, planning a proposal is nerve-wracking and time-consuming, especially if the fiancee-to-be in question happens to like elaborate gestures. But come on guys, it’s ONE DAY. If you’re not willing to put effort into making one day so special that your future wife will remember it forever, then you probably don’t deserve her. And seriously. if you don’t think she’s worth the effort, then why in the heck do you want to marry her in the first place?
As standard as a proposal might be — and ladies, I’m talking about the man who really, really loves you but doesn’t have the imagination to do more than pop a bottle of bubbly and present you with a diamond ring on bended knee –if it comes from the heart, it’s worth far more than an ostentatious, gawdy gesture any day of the week.
I appreciate grand gestures just as much as the rest of you do, but if they’re not genuine, and not heartfelt, they’re utterly meaningless to me.
But hey, everyone is different. If a big proposal — albeit one that didn’t quite come from your boyfriend/fiance is what you want, then great. Happiness takes many different shapes, and at the end of the day, happiness is the end goal here, right?
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About the Author: Laura Schreffler is a former New York Daily News columnist who left the world of celebrity behind to focus on what makes her happiest — love and travel. She is the creator of LoveTrekker.com — a website devoted to these two passions that she fondly calls “looking for love in all the right places.” In her spare time she likes to play matchmaker for her friends, dream about her next vacation and gaze at photographs of Taylor Kitsch. For more advice on love, relationships, and happiness, check out http://lovetrekker.com & her book "Internet Dating 101". And follow her here at Happiness Series with her weekly blog about finding love.