Here at Happiness Series we’re chock full of tips and advice for how to improve the quality of your life, how to be happier, how to make small changes in your life that significantly improve the way you feel-physically, emotionally, and we hope spiritually. And these tips, this advice, all it really works. It’s been road tested, so to speak. I do all these things daily or at least 4-5 times a week. I have a kale smoothie everyday. I meditate (it works). I exercise, doing our workout videos (and I’m stronger and leaner for it). I’ve made a vision board; it gives me pleasure just looking at it. I love our daily tips. I make our recipes. And again, all of it works. These things do make you feel better NOW. But what about when you’re so far in the morass and the muck and the mire that you can’t see a way out? And what about when you kinda wanna wallow in that mire, to punish yourself and others in your life? Because I’ve been there too. Sometimes you just want to tell Happiness Series & the useful daily tips to fuck off. Sometimes good advice and useful tips are the last thing you want. You don’t want to say “what else is possible?”, you want to say “I don’t care what else is possible!”, right? You want to feel BAD. Because you already feel bad. So what’s a person to do, when you’re so far down that the only thing you want to do is go further down the hole and wallow, wallow, wallow? I know the answer because I’ve been there, most likely we’ve all been there; I return to there on occasion, and I feel your pain… why? because I feel my pain. Here’s what you do: you go there, you wallow in the shite, so to speak, you feel bad for yourself, you feel angry, maybe you trip on your way up the stairs because you’re so deep in your own little fugue state you’re not present. And then… you just kinda stop.
Here’s what I did. I got to a point where it wasn’t really possible to make myself feel worse. And I was tired of myself. My little routine of woe. I stopped. I closed my eyes, and I took 5 deep breaths. I asked my guides (even if you don’t believe in spirit guides, don’t question it, just go with it, try this) to get me back in the flow. And I waited. Slowly, slowly I felt a little better. A little. I’m heading out the door to work out, and then I’ll make a kale smoothie. I won’t do these things with great enthusiasm but I’ll do them. And I believe I’ll feel better still. I’ll get back to work, meeting my Friday deadline, and maybe I’ll go for a walk. It’s hard to be depressed when you’re in nature or even just outside. I realize that at Happiness Series it seems like we’re always focused on the positive and on self-improvement. Sometimes that feels like an impossibility but I promise you these little steps work.
Accept how you’re feeling right now and then take your 5 breaths, ask for help, ask your guides to help you get in the flow of your life, and then slowly climb out of your hole with a little exercise, a little kale, and a little meditation. And most of all be KIND to yourself. You deserve, I deserve, we deserve love, fulfillment, and happiness.
And now you can ask the best question I know, “WHAT ELSE IS POSSIBLE?”.
About the Author: Tania Van Pelt is the creator of Happiness Series. After working in film, she realized that creating content for an online world that moves and inspires people is where it's at. She loves the immediacy and the vibrancy of working online. Tania created Happiness Series because she wants to empower people to live healthier, longer, more joyful lives through fitness, nutrition, stress management and integrative wellness. After years of research and practical application, she is excited about the newest project, Ageless Diet™. Ageless Diet is a lifestyle that promotes an Ageless You. Because getting older doesn't have to mean aging, and losing weight doesn't have to be hard. Happiness Series and Ageless Diet are going in new directions, bringing people together in beautiful settings with retreats and conferences. Books and a cooking series are soon to follow. Tania also recently completed her sitcom web/TV series pilot Employees Only, at http://employeesonly.tv.