Welcome to the Happiness Series! I’m host, Sheila Heylin, and I’m so excited and proud to be a part of this show and movement to take back our Happiness.
We will stop going through our lives wondering why we aren’t happy. Wondering why, when it seems there’s so much to be grateful for, we still don’t feel truly happy. There might be moments of happiness but not that true joy you feel inside and out.
As you may know, I’ve not always been the healthiest and happiest person. Over a decade ago, it dawned on me that I needed help. When I started this journey 10 years ago, I realized I wanted more for myself but I wasn’t sure what or if anything was wrong. I just couldn’t put my finger on the problem or the solution. One of my mentors, my then sister-in-law Dr. Martha Linn, started me on the road to happiness.
I started with cleaning out my body. This is so important because it gives you better clarity, a better attitude and definently tons of energy. This was a big transition for me because fast food was my best friend and top chef. The only vegetables I liked were green beans, tomatoes and iceberg lettuce. I’m from Chicago, and I was a meat and potatoes girl (still am but in a healthier way) so I thought I had a real struggle ahead of me–changing my diet. I was wrong! After I read what all these amazing vegetables, like kale, spinach, broccoli, asparagus, could do for me, like the diseases they prevent, I knew, this is what I wanted to put in my body. There was a lot of trial and error while I figured out how I I liked to eat them. My theory was even if I didn’t like vegetables, I’d get the healthiest ones and learn how to eat them. We can get used to anything. I didn’t like my 1st shot of whiskey…. but I liked how I felt afterwards. Before you knew it I was a connoisseur of whiskeys. So I took the same approach with food as I did with whiskey back in the day. I did the same thing with fish just last year. WOW! That was a doozy. The point is that we can adjust and get used to anything. We do it all the time…. it’s just usually for or about someone else.
We can find healthier versions of the foods we like to eat. We have better and more affordable produce (especially with farmer’s markets in most communities). The more we buythe quicker prices will fall. Seasonal and local produce is usually cheaper and always fresher. I was never a cook but I can throw a piece of meat on the grill or in the oven, cook some veggies and make a salad… how easy is that? Only 1 or 2 pans to clean up after. Healthy meal and barely any dishes… I can do this. My body and energy changed almost immediately. I felt so good! And when I would backslide and eat the not-so-good-for-you food, I would enjoy each bite but I really became aware of how my body felt while and after eating it. It usually made me feel tired, sluggish and bloated. It just wasn’t worth it! I liked how I felt when I put good whole foods in me. Before I knew it, I was consistently eating well. I actually lost my taste for my old food–which still blows me away! Me, the least disciplined person I know, the woman who indulged in everything, is able to eat well and enjoy it! But actually that undisciplined, self-indulgent woman wasn’t who I was anymore.
AND that’s when my power was realized! Then I really started working on me! How was I thinking? How was I talking to myself and others? When you really pay attention to words you use throughout your day, that’s a great signpost to where you really are. Walk through your day and listen and catch those negative words: “I’m tired,” I’ll be happy when…,” “Nobody understands me…,” “I can’t do anything right.” Does it give you more energy to say that out loud? No, you re-enforce that you’re tired. You’ll be happy when… what? What conditions will make you happy? How long will that take? You won’t be happy from now until then???? How do we talk to or about others? Are we judge and jury? I have a great teacher Joe Anthony who told me, stop judging others, and you’ll stop judging yourself. Seriously, this was the hardest for me but it also had the biggest pay off!
The point is, friends, we have the ability to change! Don’t make it (change) into something bigger than you. Then it will be too much to take on! What I’ve learned, putting all the information to the test, is it’s everyday steps. It’s you being present and aware of how you’re going through your day. It’s you doing little things everyday to keep your body, mind, and spirit clean and open. There is no magic pill. It’s you! Think of yourself as a messy closet. Take everything out of it. Only put back the things that make you feel really good, beautiful, and strong. Take all the rest and throw it away! And please don’t give that bad stuff away…. no on needs it. Create who you want to be. If you don’t know, start this journey and it will come to you. It’s never too late. It’s our duty to ourselves and others to take good care. The more you give yourself, the more you’re able to give.
Only you can do this BUT you don’t have to do it alone! I sure didn’t! This is why we started the show! We’ll do it together!
The reason I wanted to share this with you is because my life has truly changed! It doesn’t mean life is easy but it’s changed because of how I react to life now. I’ve been helped by amazing people, wonderful authors, and complete strangers who have touched my life by their actions without even knowing it.
When Tania told me her idea for the show and wanted me to host it I was so excited! I felt at that moment that I knew why I’ve been working on this for the last 10 years–to prepare for this show. I want to be a part of something that will help others change their lives. This is a journey I really want to go through with you and so that we can learn from each other. I truly believe we are one, and we never have to be alone. At some point, we all go through the same things. There is strength in numbers. So let’s spread HAPPINESS together.
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About the Author: Sheila Heylin, the knowledgeable host of Happiness Series, lives in Chicago and Los Angeles. It was in LA where Sheila discovered healthy living. She realized that “what you’re not used to and what you hate are two different things.” She and Tania partnered to create Happiness Series and build an online and offline community that fosters wellness and happiness.