Single Ladies, Cameron Diaz is Your Champion

Cameron Diaz is single and proud of it — and she wants you to feel the same. Even if you don’t, it doesn’t matter — she’s championing singletons ’round the world regardless.

In the February issue of Self magazine, the 41-year-old actress and author rallies against the chauvinistic and archaic belief that women who are single simply can’t hold on to a man. And I mean come on, if anyone thinks that they’re ridiculous. I mean, have you seen what’s actually available to us in Manhattan? Please. The Wolf of Wall Street and his brethren don’t turn me on. How about you?

Anyoo, Cam Cam is saying what needs to be said by a single woman who has the proverbial soapbox to stand on. She says: “If a relationship fails, it’s because the woman couldn’t hold on to her man, not that the man cheated. It’s terrifying for a woman to get out of a relationship, because it’s always going to be her fault. I get that a lot, being a single woman. The reports are always saying that I’m ‘acting inappropriately’ toward men. I don’t at all harp on that shit, but I clock it. I notice it. And then I let it go because there is nothing I can do about it.”

She also admits to being frustrated that no one can accept that a woman wants to be on her own. Although she might be the exception to the rule, as I truly believe that we aren’t built to go through life alone, it isn’t an impossibility that a woman should prefer her own company above all others.

Cameron is a woman who has had the cream of the crop male-wise: she’s dated Jared Leto, Justin Timberlake and Alex Rodriguez. But in recent years, the Californiaborn beauty has packed up shop and left the sunshine behind for life in the Big Apple. She’s still starring in films, sure, but she’s also working on other artistic pursuits. She’s penned a book, “The Body Book: The Law of Hunger, the Science of Strength, and Other Ways to Love Your Amazing Body”, and she’s turned designer, creating her very first collection for Pour la Victoire. She’s pushing the envelope, trying new things and, above all, is clearly loving her life and, more importantly, loving herself.

And whether you’re single or in a relationship, isn’t that the point? Ignore the haters, the smug marrieds and the those who can’t  stand to be alone even if it means being in an awful relationship, and take pride in the fact that your’e doing what you love, loving what you do, and most of all, that you are  loving you. That, my friends, is true happiness.


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About the Author: Laura Schreffler is a former New York Daily News columnist who left the world of celebrity behind to focus on what makes her happiest — love and travel. She is the creator of — a website devoted to these two passions that she fondly calls “looking for love in all the right places.” In her spare time she likes to play matchmaker for her friends, dream about her next vacation and gaze at photographs of Taylor Kitsch. For more advice on love, relationships, and happiness, check out & her book "Internet Dating 101". And follow her here at Happiness Series with her weekly blog about finding love.

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