Resolutions. Are they just castles in the sky?

I made fantastic resolutions this year. I mean, they are top notch. I’m all about exercise, eating right, being calmer and getting knife skills that can rival Iron Chef Morimoto. It’s a shame none of them will actually happen.

Huh? What? Isn’t this supposed to be a post about New Year’s and our resolutions and how you can follow my example and become a leaner, faster, stronger person? It is. And it isn’t.

Here’s the deal. There is a reason more people join the gym in January then any other month. More people sign up for Weight Watchers and Jenny Craig. More people hire trainers. Why? Because they resolved to. Because they said this is the year I lose those 15 lbs, I get that 6 pack of abs, I finally start wearing make up like my mother keeps telling me.  And within a week, a month, 3 months, most of us have fallen right back into old habits and patterns.

It’s not your fault. You can’t help it. You didn’t fail. You just had no chance of succeeding.

Resolutions are like castles in the clouds. They look so pretty up there floating around. We so want to inhabit them. But what we fail to do is figure out how to get into said castle in the sky.  Are we flying there?  Using a rope ladder? Jet pack? It’s like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. We are going to find it. But what we neglect to do is figure out how to find it and what to do with that pesky leprechaun who is waiting there as well. But this year I propose a change. Because I want you to succeed, I really do. I want myself to succeed as well. I want our world collectively to get better because so many people are accomplishing their New Year’s resolutions. So I’m going to give you some tips.

Make a resolution. And then, make a plan. It’s all about action steps.  Ask yourself this, HOW will I make this happen? WHO will be involved in the process? WHAT does it entail? WHERE will I go to accomplish this? WHY is this not working and how can I change it?

For example; weight loss. Let’s say your resolution this year is to lose 15 lbs. Awesome.

How? By changing the way I eat. Great answer. But way too vague.  How much do you plan to lose each week? How will you change how you eat? Will you cook more? Cut out processed foods? Eat more broccoli? Call and hire Courtney Abrams, Health Coach?

Here’s another common resolution. I’ll work out more. Again, great.  When will you work out? Before or after work? Will you do a class or hire a trainer? How many days do you plan to go? Who will you work out with and keep you motivated? What happens on the days you planned to go but didn’t?

Do you get the idea? If we don’t sit down and lay out our action steps to accomplish our goals, we won’t ever see our goals. And then we’ll feel like failures and will just sit down watching the Biggest Loser whilst eating a giant bag of Pringles. It is imperative that you make a plan. Think of your resolution as your business plan. You need to lay out each and every step to get there. Your resolution is point A. The end result is point Z. That leaves a lot in the middle that needs to be figured out. So figure those steps, do them and it will be smooth sailing to that castle in the sky. If you miss a step or get stuck, it’s not a big deal. Just back up, and look at the path again. If you lay out the steps, then the goal is real and achievable instead of being the notion of an idea that we think we can accomplish.

As for me, here is how I resolve to keep one of my New Year’s resolutions. WHAT? I resolve to exercise regularly. WHEN?  3 days a week while the baby naps. HOW? I will do one of my 30 minute work out videos or use kettle bells.WHO? I will be accountable to you, my readers. WHERE? In my room, backyard or along the hiking trails or bike path if I can find that time. WHY? Because I feel better when I work out, and my emotions, anxiety and stress level are much more manageable.

What are you resolutions for 2013? What is your action plan to get there? I would love to hear your stories of success and even of set backs.

To continue the conversation, I offer a free Health Consultation.  Please visit me at or email me at [email protected].  You can also follow on Facebook at or on Twitter @courtneyabrams



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About the Author: Courtney Abrams is a Health Coach and Founder of Roslyn Wellness. Trained at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, she helps clients work within the realities of their day to day lives to find ways to make small and manageable changes to their health that can maintained over time. Her clients include people trying to lose weight, beat sugar, increase their energy, cook simple healthful food and reduce stress to name a few. She also shares a passion for food policy and educating people about the foods they are eating and the governmental role behind much of it. You can learn more about Courtney and Roslyn Wellness at

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